Don’t you sometimes wish there were simple answers to life’s hard questions?

Sometimes there are.

One of those questions is ‘what does it take to be a good wife?’

Come on, you’ve had this discussion lots of times with girlfriends at Starbucks. What did you come up with?

Make love more often
Work out and keep your figure
Let him have the remote
Ask if he’d rather play golf Saturday than mow the lawn or go school shopping with the kids
Endure another business dinner with his boss, yes, the one you think is a primate
Spend less money on yourself
Get excited about the Sports car he wants to buy

Marriage can be heaven on earth and 10 minutes later you’re at DEFCON 1.

Most of us have figured out how to handle the good stuff; it’s when things get difficult that I needed a tool for damage control.

Years ago I found a Mission Statement, a single mantra to guide my words and actions toward my husband when I’d rather be selfish and mean.

Will this do good or harm to my husband and our relationship?

That’s not what you wanted to hear, right?

Let’s talk HGTV instead.
You’ve seen the shows like Property Brothers that feature a complete remodel.

Did you ever notice the tools? Some are for tearing down, for demolition, and others are constructive, for building.

When things get out of sync I only want constructive tools at the ready.

I can’t control my husband’s response, but I can decide in advance that I won’t, in the space of a few moments, damage something we’ve both been working a long time to build.

How do you handle the tough times and rough patches in your relationship?

She does him good and not harm for as long as she lives (Proverbs 31:12)

Published by Kelly Grace

Every day I look for God to touch my life. That intersection of the divine and the daily is what I write about here at A Really Full Life.

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