Finding The Perfect Balance in Life

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Do you struggle to find the right balance in your life?
I do.
For instance, I enjoy my family, but want some time and space to myself.
Love my hobbies, but the hate clutter.
Try to plan out long term finances, and how I can get the sofa reupholstered before it’s in shreds.

Sometimes I even struggle in my relationship with God.

As a Christian there’s a gap between what I know and what I actually do.
Between theory and practice.
I like to think of it as the difference between the now and the then.

You read it right, the now and the then.

John, who refers to himself as ‘the one Jesus loved’, tells me this:

“Beloved, (see–that makes me feel better right off the bat, being called Beloved),
NOW we are God’s children,
and what we will be has not yet appeared;
but we know that when he appears we shall be like him,
because we shall see him as he is.
And everyone who thus hopes in him purifies himself as he is pure.

That word purifies describes a process, an ongoing one.
I wish it was a one time event like salvation, but apparently it doesn’t bother God that His children are gonna take a long time to reach maturity.
Maybe He’s OK with it because He’s omniscient and knows His kids will all turn out well.

And He knows the when.
When Jesus returns.
That’s the THEN, so for now I’m hanging on in hope and being purified by the word.

I’d love to hear about what works for you.
How you achieve balance in the practical and spiritual aspects of your life.
How do you maintain your work and home life?
Is there one area that occasionally throws you off-kilter?

AND, do you think women struggle with this more than men?
Or do we just talk about it more?

13 Comments on “Finding The Perfect Balance in Life

  1. Whew Kelly you ask a question that requires a War and Peace sized response, but Ill try to keep it closer to Tuesdays with Morrie. (super short book)
    Sometimes i achieve that elusive balance. But honestly i dont think its nearly often enough. I do this one day and that the next. I walk past my daughters rooms and roll my eyes and wait for the acid in my stomach to calm itself. I know on the weekend they will clean it. And the rest of the house is spotless. I work at a perfect job for me ( a nanny to a gorgeous hilarious little girl) but am out of the house many hours a day. Its all a give and take.
    And the spiritual side of the balancing act? Its the balm that keeps me from going over the edge. Knowing that the reality is that none of this actually matters. Its my job to keep things running smoothly at my home and at my job but its really just the life God has given me until my real life begins in His Kingdom.
    So i juggle and i struggle and i succeed and fail, but eventually ill just be among Him. Where all the rooms stay clean and everyone is fed exactly what they need. πŸ˜ƒπŸ˜ƒ

    • HaHa! I know what you mean about girls’ bedrooms. When we moved, my teenage daughter’s bedroom carpet was the cleanest in the house, having been continually covered for 3 years with her discarded clothing! What’s the standard for clean? That question often put me at odds with kids and hubby. I’ve surrendered the high ground on that issue.
      “The balm”. Love it, love it, love it. Heaven, a place where the icky stuff can’t get in! πŸ˜€ πŸ˜€ (Rev. 21:27) So glad you’re back. We all missed you!

      • You are the sweetest thing ever!!! πŸ’œπŸ’›πŸ’™πŸ’š

  2. I echo Katie’s juggle and struggle. My own mum had a wonderful way with her god – when she wasn’t in the mood she told him: “I don’t feel like talking to you today.” It has taken me years to “get that” as okay – in fact, I think, even more than okay and moving towards a perfection of relationship.

    I am not sure I will ever achieve “maturity” or even want to come close to that. After 30 years of wedded imperfection with one I love dearly I never have (and nor I think has she). So when it comes to our relationship with our god – I remain curious as to why we keep striving for the unattainable – and feeling guilty too often when we miss.

    • Your wise mum must have figured God already knew her thoughts, so why not make free to tell Him plainly. I’m so glad He doesn’t hold a grudge when we snub Him. “Wedded imperfection”, great phrase! If life is a walk on the balance beam, marriage is a high-wire act πŸ˜€ I wish all my striving were just to please Him, I’m afraid there’s a little back-patting involved. My guilt might be pride in disguise???

      • Kelly – that last phrase always catches me. The “transaction” of love. The “suffering for my Lord” stuff we all do (I know I do) so easily. And always alongside seems to be the counting: how much guilt, how much suffering, how much righteousness, more than I should, less than them, more than them …

        I think that is why God doesn’t hold grudges and has perfect love for us. He doesn’t know how to count.

  3. I love this! We all struggle….sometimes it a struggle just to get out of bed in the morning! I’m not sure that balance is even a daily thing…I think it is more a broad spectrum analysis of how it all goes overall. Today I might not be very spiritual, but tomorrow is another story. As women I think we attack things as they come.(I do anyway) so if nothing bites me when I step out of bed in the morning, I’m good to spend time with my Savior, but if by chance I fall out – chances are good I’ll be picking up the pieces for the rest of the day. Does that mean that I’m not balanced? (No jokes!) I don’t think so. Tomorrow is another day and another chance to melt our hearts together and walk hand in hand through the garden that He has given me. Be blessed Sister!

    • Amen Lisa! His mercies are new EVERY morning, great is His faithfulness. That’s true even when we are erratic, undependable, and distracted. He loves me even when I’m a wreck. Of course, when was I ever not a wreck?

  4. Kelly, the striving for balance once consumed me but now I’m content knowing every day is not going to be what I want it to be. When I stopped trying to be “super mom” and allowed God to guide me instead of planning all the time my quality of life was much better. I also became nicer.

    So, I strive for some balance. I close by eyes as I walk past my teenage boys rooms and don’t let laundry consume me as it once did. I’m trying to now focus on my relationship and obedience to God and the loved one’s in my life. When I leave this earth I don’t want to regret spending time on the things that didn’t matter. I’m also learning not to take everything so seriously. God has a sense of humor so I should too. Lilka

  5. Kelly, balance is difficult day to day, even minute by minute. Perfect balance? Never. It’s the striving I seek, to abide in Him, to remember that He abides in me, that helps keep me from the toppling into the void. Sometimes, all I need to do is look out the window, hear a birdsong, see the rain, watch a dog run, hear a child laugh – then I remember His perfect grace. That what keeps me upright and balanced for a few more hours.

    So glad we found each other. So good to be warmed by your light.

    • We’re of the same era so can I say I’m blown away by your writing? I can tell it’s going to take a few days to explore your blog. Glad it’s the weekend and rainy πŸ˜‰
      No one would choose a testimony like yours, but you’re a demonstration of His power, His love, and how He really can work all things together for good. I’m thankful you also love to write ❀
      Blessings my new friend,
      Kelly

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