How to Have That Hard Talk With Your Man

Move from conflict to connection with your husband in just four tried-and-true steps.

Learn how to share your heart and speak your mind

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While we can all agree that it's outdated to think that women are simply more sensitive than men, that doesn't mean you don't experience very real frustrations in your marriage. And it especially doesn't mean that your feelings are invalid.

My own experience has shown me that marriages are a lot of work, and there are significant issues that will, without fail, arise and must get dealt with.

Without a good strategy in place, it's easy to let emotion overcome conversations, which only ends up clouding and stifling your communication with your spouse.

I created this guide, How to Have That Hard Talk With Your Man, to help you with the intense emotions you experience because of this thing, this frustration, this obstacle you're encountering in your marriage.

And women aren’t inherently more emotional.

Men aren’t actually from Mars.

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This guide was created for Christian women who want to learn how to handle recurring conflicts

This guide was created for Christian women who want to learn how to handle recurring conflicts

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you're in the right place

"This Guide is packed with advice that gets straight to the point and is easy to absorb. Whether you’ve been in a relationship for just a short time or many years, you’ll learn how to tackle a difficult conversation in a way that’s fair and effective."

- heather

In this guide, we’ll cover strategies to help you move towards a deeper connection with your husband, including…

Learn what makes you feel like you’re walking on eggshells

The cornerstone to every great relationship is honesty and in the spirit of that idea, I'll be honest: most couples have an area of marriage that they tiptoe around.

This happens usually because we're afraid that once we start talking about the minefield topic, we'll end up right where we always have before — in a fight or in Silent Mode.

No one wants to risk adding another layer of bad feelings over an already stressful or toxic part of a relationship.

Transform defensive conversations

What if healing, not hurting, could be the result of having a hard talk with your husband? That’s why the next phase in this process is to learn how to bring up a tough topic with confidence, and without causing your spouse to get defensive or to withdraw.

We'll cover how to develop a strategy to help you say what you need and want to say without causing unnecessary distress and tension.

Communicate effectively with your partner

The goal of having a hard talk with your man isn't to prove something. It's to be heard and move in a positive way towards a resolution to this recurring and painful issue.

This third phase will teach you how to say what really needs to be said to increase the odds of your husband listening and understanding your frustrations. 

What I’m sharing with you comes from 35 years of trying to learn how to communicate more effectively with my own husband, and working with countless other women over years in ministry.

The origin of these frameworks and methods

Like any great strategy, it's important to know the background research and what the authorities have to say.

I've looked to God for divine wisdom to help guide me throughout my years of teaching and ministering to Christian women. So, at the end of this guide, you'll find Bible passages most Christians will recognize. The principles and strategies covered in this guide are rooted in Scriptural counsel.

This guide was created to help you tackle that thing you can’t stop thinking about, but don’t know how to start talking about.

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Part 1: Craft Your Message

Learn how to get clear on what you need to say, so that you and your husband are on the same page.

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Part 2: Choose the Best Time

Create a plan with plenty of prepping time, so you feel confident to show up and have that talk.

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Part 3: Create a Beautiful Framework for Your Message

Express yourself freely and eloquently with the prompts discussed in this part.

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Part 4: A Gracious Exit Strategy

Part 1 began with a plan to get you into a tough conversation - in this part, we'll create a plan to get you out of it with grace and love.

My passion is to help you discover how God’s word can reach down into your heart and produce amazing transformations in you, your relationships, and your influence in the world around you. 

Whether you’re new to faith or grew up in church, we all face the challenge of making God’s word a vital part of every day, not just Sundays. The Bible is a big, beautiful, deep, divinely inspired, sometimes hard to grasp well-spring of all God wants you to know about Him, about yourself, and about the incredible potential you have for living a life that matters forever ‒ a truly vibrant life.

These are the lessons I learned over 50 years of walking with God. They’re from my victories and my failures. As Joanna Wiebe has said, “You’re about to get the lessons behind my battle scars.”

Forget theory. This truth is road-tested for real life. Are you ready?

Welcome to an oasis for renewal and inspiration on your spiritual journey.

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