Missing Kate, A Story of Blogosphere Friendship

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I didn’t know, not until today, that I felt so close to someone I’d never even met.

I didn’t know it until I saw the actual words declaring that her blog had been DELETED.
Mine was a physical response, like someone hitting me hard in the stomach and knocking all the breath from my body.

Too dramatic?
OK, maybe just a bit, but the girl has left a hole in my heart.
And if you read her blog you’re missing her too.

She would say, “aw-shucks”, and dismiss the compliment, but I think she’d like knowing.
And she’d respond with 2 or 3 flower, heart, or smiley emoticons.

I don’t know how she ever found my little needle in the huge WordPress haystack, but she left a few comments and likes, so I visited her site.
I finally figured out that’s how you meet others around WordPressville, duh!
That day I hit FOLLOW and enjoyed every single post she wrote.
Forging a friendship through comments and the bits and pieces of our daily lives shared in posts.

She made me laugh and think.
That’s a rare skill set combo on the web or in real life.
Her blog-voice hit just the right notes with clarity, sincerity, and humor.

Non-bloggers would never understand this affinity we experience in the online community.
I can’t share this loss with my husband. He’d give me that look he gives me when I talk about upholstered furniture.
If I posted it on Facebook my friends would think I ought to get out more.
Maybe meet real friends for real conversation over real beverages in the real world.

So I’m sharing my distress and bereft-ness with the only people who can identify and empathize, my fellow WordPress friends.
It’s not in my nature to be bummed for long. I can’t do mopey serious justice because sooner or later something makes me laugh.
Once the mood is broken I can’t get back into downward facing dog mode.

But Kate wouldn’t want that anyway.
That would definitely make her roll her eyes.
Instead let’s try some pop-wisdom from the author of the 1970’s best-seller Jonathan Livingstone Seagull.
Because that wouldn’t make her roll her eyes. . .


So I’m setting her free to laze at the beach, and quilt shop in Dutch Country, and barbecue on Thursday nights.
She can write a Devotional or a Romance novel this summer.
She can take college courses or traipse around Ireland, but we have a date certain for this Fall.
I’m holding her to that last sweet post announcing a summer hiatus.
I can live without my favorite TV show for 12 weeks, but getting along without Serious Thoughts Taken Not So Seriously will stretch me to my limit.
So Fall it is.

That’s when I expect a notice to land in my Inbox announcing that MY FRIEND KATE has returned to WordPress, donned her pajamas and climbed onto the couch to blog for us all once again!

If you’re like me, and undergoing Kate withdrawal, here’s just a brief reminder of how good it all was!


Now you’re invited to cry all over my Comments Section or better yet, share a favorite Kate-ism.

Published by Kelly Grace

Every day I look for God to touch my life. That intersection of the divine and the daily is what I write about here at A Really Full Life.

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  1. I can totally understand, Kelly! This is how we form virtual friendships. And, let’s face it, a lot of our personal friends are just people with whom we have been in geographical proximity, or members of our families — that was happenstance too.

    Similar minds and hearts connect in many different ways — at one time there were pen pals. I had two when I was young and they were just as real to me as my best friends were, at the time.

    Maybe Kate will be back. When she returns, remind us to visit her blog. Take heart, there are other sympathetic souls to be discovered.

    1. I forgot about Pen Pals πŸ˜‰ In a way, the connection of minds and hearts is the foundation of all friendship. And the good news is that Kate is back. She changed the name of her blog and that ‘deleted’ the old name. Find her at http://mamasongs.wordpress.com

      Have a wonderful weekend Beth.

  2. Feeling So the same, Kelly. Sad and longing in my heart. Hoping she’s happy, enjoying what we’re ‘missing’ in this busy world of ours. Glad you’re here for me to read and and read back as well. Love to you.

    1. I knew I wasn’t the only one who felt that way!!!
      Good news though, you can find her here http://mamasongs.wordpress.com.
      She just changed the blog name. Whew, that was close.
      Thanks for your contribution here on WP Kim. This made me realize how much I appreciate each and every one of you πŸ˜‰

  3. I thought Kate was only taking the summer off and then returning to her blog in the fall. I just clicked and also saw that it was deleted…? Like you, I’ll hope she returns in the fall! I understand how you feel and loved the analogy of your husband’s possible reaction being that of you talking about upholstered furniture! πŸ™‚

  4. Oh my goodness!!!! This is really too much. I am seriously just a boring Mom and struggling christian (like most out there yes?). But today i feel pretty special. Lets not make this a habit.
    And for anyone who reads this my name has been changed to mamasongs. I made that change unknowingly. Lol. So u will see ive not gone anywhere, just got carried away with changing stuff!
    I love u folks!! πŸ’™πŸ’šπŸ’›πŸ’œ

    1. You may be a boring mom, but you’re like our favorite neighbor and we were a little freaked out when we looked out the kitchen window and saw a SOLD sign in your front lawn πŸ˜‰
      Maybe we should start a collection and hire some ‘coder kid’ to handle the admin on your blog so we can all sleep at night?
      Just say the word. . .

      1. Lol! Feeling so un techie. Flippin wp!!πŸ˜„πŸŒ»πŸŒ»the for sale sign has been put in the fireplace!!πŸ‘πŸ‘

  5. I can relate with your story Kelly. I can relate to how friendships form online. Unique friendships that you would never ever meet in your everyday life. My goal is to make those important friendships real. I believe God brings people into your life for a reason. That applies to the people you meet face to face and online. I have met some pretty amazing people online who by being honest and open and transparent have taught me so much about this walk we walk in Christ!!! It’s good to hear Kate has not gone anywhere……!!!!!


    1. Amen Rolain! All of our ducks are still in a row πŸ˜‰
      You’re right about God bringing people into our lives for a reason. It may be to help us, make us stronger in our faith, or to challenge us, or maybe to give us an opportunity to serve them. Whatever the reason He intends it for good. Have a great weekend πŸ˜‰

  6. I’m with you! I enjoyed her blog and she will be missed! Keep her in your prayers as we never know what may be going on in her life. She always made such encouraging comments!

  7. She’s back Kelly. I know how you felt!!! It is a “family” of like minded people sharing life in their own way and honoring The Lord. πŸ˜€πŸ˜€πŸ˜€

  8. I had the same reaction, Kelly, until I saw her new blog this morning.

    We do form a kinship her in the blogosphere that others wouldn’t understand. I admit, I would be horrified and heartbroken if those I follow and with whom I communicate on a regular basis were just to disappear. As Levi so eloquently said, we’re “a ‘family’ of like minded people sharing life in their own way and honoring The Lord.” I would dearly miss my brothers and sisters.

    These are relationships, and even though we don’t see each other in a physical sense, I think we “see” each other in the Avatar sense, in the godly sense.

    Thanks so much for expressing what many of us feel about each other. <3

    1. Thinking Kate was GONE made me realize how much her light influenced me, blessed me. And I feel the same about so many others in our WP family who continually amaze me with their spiritual insights. I love the examples of how God is working in and through them every day, and their life stories of redemption and second chances. Just like Corinthians 12:14 says, the body needs all the parts! Thanks for sharing Susan. You bless me with your beautiful spirit and words πŸ˜‰

    1. Botanical huh, I love all things flora except for the wild strawberry vine that invaded my nice Isotoma ground cover and choked the life out of it! See you soon at your new diggs πŸ˜‰

  9. Totally agree! I’m not really sure how I connected with Kate but I’m very glad that we did. Her blog posts always offer a way to look at the world a little differently during the day and I am going to miss them during the summer. She did say she was going for the summer, right? Hopefully I can write a few posts that will elicit a comment from her during her absence. And, I think I’ll be following your blog too πŸ™‚

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