Worried What Others Think Of You? Get Yourself Free Of That Trap!!!

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You have two options in life:  March to the beat of your own drum or NOT.


For a country obsessed with ‘selfies’ we are a people terrified of being ourselves.

What if my friends don’t like my hair, my shoes, my furniture?
Easy, get new friends.

We’re constantly fluctuating between finding ourselves and reinventing ourselves.
Let’s make up our minds and just get on with being what we are and doing what we do.


I want to be like this:

African Elephant



If I want wrinkles I’ll have them, if I want Botox, I’ll get it.
If that bothers you, then stop thinking about it.

And I want to be like this:
Ghanaian children


Free to wear the cool red sunglasses at church 😉

God made us social creatures, but He also warned us not to get ‘caught in the trap’ of worrying about what others think of us.
Being guided by the opinions and judgments of others is the quickest route to insecurity and unhappiness!

Fearing people is a dangerous trap,
    but trusting the Lord means safety.
Proverbs 29:25 NLT


Be who you are, who God made you to be.  

Did you notice that the elephant has a broken right tusk?  
Did you judge her for that?
Elephants are suppose to have beautifully symmetrical tusks, right?
How can she come out of the trees with that broken tusk?
You’d think she’d be too embarrassed?
Is that why she was alone, did the others shun her, ditch her, not answer her calls?


We all have broken parts.
That doesn’t mean we aren’t still spectacular!!!

I hope I can look at others and see the awesomeness God built in to them and have compassion for the broken parts.
And laugh with the one wearing the funky sunglasses.
She’s usually the one that’s the most fun 😉


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  1. Dan Antion says:

    This is essential advice. Well done.

  2. Anonymous says:

    When David met Goliath; David wore his own battle gear.
    John 8:32 And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free. :0)
    Thank you Kelly for pointing us to Truth.
    Much love, Patti T.

    • Kelly Grace says:

      Miss you Patti! The David illustration is perfect.
      I was just in Murugu, the village where Sarah was stung by an African ‘killer’ bee. Donne told me the story ;). We ministered in the church there and it’s next door to the Bee Keeping Training Center—I didn’t know that until I was finished the 2nd day teaching the kids outside under the big tree.

  3. paulfg says:

    For a species which so wants to be recognised for our “individuality” – it foxes me why we also care so much about being the “the same”. Lovely post Kelly! 🙂

    • Kelly Grace says:

      It foxes you! I love that 😉 what a highly descriptive phrase. Is that an old saying like, safe as houses? Thanks for commenting. In a few weeks I’ll be back in the US with unlimited Internet. I’ve missed reading your blog and others at WP, but we have very limited capacity here in the bush.

  4. Marissa Aschinger says:

    thank you for being the example of the “fun” one my sweet encourager <3

  5. bwdell says:

    Thanks for the encouragement. I always heard you should celebrate what you want to preserve.

    • Kelly Grace says:

      I have to say that one of the hard things about blogging was getting past the ‘I hope they like me phase’, but then I did—that’s when it started being FUN. I like that word celebrate. That’s what I’m doing from now on Bob, I’m celebrating. Thank you.

  6. Thank you so much for this post and sharing the scriptures to go with it. I was talking about this with a young boy at the weekend, it’s not an easy wisdom to grasp hold of is it?

    • Kelly Grace says:

      No, but the freedom it brings is a key part of experiencing joy and peace even in the tween and teen years. That boy is blessed to have someone like you to talk with ;). Thanks for reading and taking the time to comment.

  7. realchange4u says:

    What a beautiful thought. Me for who I am. Thanks Kelly. Bless you sister.

  8. Sherry says:

    I pretty much march to my own drum….and I am over the “I hope they like me” phase. Now I am in the “I hope the ones that used to like don’t think I have gone round the bend!” <3 you much…thank you for sharing and helping me to remember the truth.

  9. Great post. Shared it on facebook. Keep up the good work!

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