Don’t Wait To Ask Yourself These Three Questions

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How do you know if you’ve lived, loved, and mattered?
Can you cobble together a definition of what living means to you?
It has to be more than a heartbeat and brain activity.
That’s being alive, but the bar is set too low if that’s a definition of living.

The question gets easier to answer if you can say a simple yes to the last two.

Jesus loved those God had given Him to love in this world.
Through His death He demonstrated God’s love for all mankind, but this verse is talking about the men and women who followed Him during His ministry. He loved them.

Now before the feast of the passover, when Jesus knew that his hour was come that he should depart out of this world unto the Father, having loved his own which were in the world, he loved them unto the end.
John 13:1

Can you say you’ve loved those God has given you in this life?
That’s the example we have from Jesus.

Loving those in your life is what makes your life matter.
Missing this will lessen the influence and impact of your life.
You may not be known by many people outside your own family, but if you’ve loved them well, then your life has, by the most important measure, mattered.

Have you lived?
Lots of people start thinking Bucket List when asked a question like that.
Living isn’t about doing though. It’s a state of being determined by your relationship to God.
He is the source of all life and being rightly related to Him is what enables you to live.
Without it you just exist.

Evaluating your life periodically can give you renewed clarity and the opportunity to make a course correction before you get too far off track. These three simple questions can remind you of what’s important, even vital to you.

Look at the people in your life today.
While you’re doing that, hold the question in your mind, do I love.

Did is past tense.
Do is now.
Now is what matters, now is what you can change.

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  1. bethbyrnes says:

    Know thyself. I think that is one of the purposes of our lives. And to know why we are here and Who created us. How many people wake up one day, the last day of their lives, and wonder what it was all for? I think about this frequently. Thank you for reminding me, Kelly.

    • Kelly Grace says:

      Sounds like you’ve made purposeful living a consistent habit Beth. Knowing Who created us and why, is foundational to a life that matters. I thought about you while reading a portion of a Jack Canfield book on daily habits. I’m in the process of creating more structure to my days through HABITS. I want to write more and the time seems to evaporate without some habits that stake out the time. I really enjoyed the post you wrote about the structure that gives a flow to your daily life. Thanks for that 😀

  2. Mark Myers says:

    I love your definition of living. Living Isn’t doing… Good word. So many are caught up in buckets lists.

    • Kelly Grace says:

      Thanks Mark. I’m not opposed to Bucket Lists, but it’s unfortunate when a person’s life draws to a close and he/she regrets about the important relationships of their life. That’s why the good folks of Portsong are so concerned with living lives of eternal consequence 😀

      • Mark Myers says:

        Haha, yes, the Reverend Crane makes sure people have their priorities in order.

        I agree with you on bucket lists, nothing wrong with them, jut not the most important thing.

  3. rolerrol says:

    Hi Kelly
    I thought this was a great post. The questions you mentioned are definitely worth thinking about…..


  4. Sue C. says:

    What matters is pleasing God, be it doing or otherwise. Thought provoking, Kelly.

  5. Vital questions to ask ourselves. You asked them well. Thank you.

  6. LightWriters says:

    So many inspiring posts, Kelly. Thanks you for the ‘follow’ at LightWriters ( and look forward to more great reading on your blog! God bless!

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